A man is someone you can rely on—a provider, a protector, someone you can lean on. He’s strong, gets things done, and manifests abundance for those he loves. But the foundation of all this isn’t physical strength or resources; it’s mental toughness. And mental toughness boils down to one simple principle: doing what you said you would do. No excuses, no bullshit—just show up and get it done, no matter your mood or the circumstances.
Think of a child locked in a dark closet, trembling with fear. The darkness isn’t the real problem—it’s the unknown, the projections of monsters and shadows their mind creates. Life can feel like that closet sometimes, especially when you’re chasing a vision. The fear of failure, the uncertainty of the path ahead—it can paralyze you. But to reach that calm state of mind where the universe seems to surrender to your will, you have to trust the process. That’s where true confidence is born: in the consistent act of showing up and putting in the work.
Here’s how I see it:
- Decide what you want.
- Make a plan to get it.
- Show up and put in the effort, day after day.
As Jocko Willink says, “Discipline equals freedom.” When you commit to this process, you free yourself from doubt and fear. You might not know if success is around the corner—hell, you might fall flat on your face. But if you have a clear vision and a plan, you’ll get back up. Review, adjust, and keep going. The darkness you face in the moment doesn’t define your journey; your persistence does. Success will come if you stay the course.
I’m reminded of Daniel Ricciardo’s story. He spent 8 years with Red Bull Racing, pouring his heart into the team, only to leave right before they hit their winning streak. I can’t help but wonder if he’s still wandering in his own darkness, regretting that he didn’t trust the process just a little longer. His name’s already fading from my memory—proof that giving up can cost you everything.
Confidence isn’t about the outcome; it’s about the repetitions. It’s about showing up every single day, doing the work, and trusting that it’ll lead you where you need to go. That’s what puts a big smile on your face—the knowledge that you’ve built something unshakable within yourself. Circumstances around us can influence us, sure, but they don’t determine who we become. What matters are the circumstances we build within ourselves: the discipline, the resilience, the mental toughness. That’s what makes a man of success.
I AM KYTHA 